Let’s explore how coaching can be a game-changer in navigating challenges and turning them into possibilities.
My aim with these posts is to bring concrete examples of coaching topics and shed light on how coaching can help as a tool for personal and professional development.
A client came to coaching feeling tense and frustrated when things at work were not as they anticipated, or planned.
The client felt the need to control situations at work and outcomes in their interactions with colleagues.
Their internal dialogue was both rigid and expectation driven.
Thoughts like: “This should go according to plan” and “If I don’t stay on top of everything, things will fall apart” came up.
They found it difficult to tolerate uncertainty or unpredictability, it felt like the ground was slipping from under their feet.
These thoughts created a constant state of irritation in conversations that didn’t go “as planned” and fatigue from trying to manage and anticipate things. They experienced a persistent sense of being “on edge,” as if they always needed to be prepared for things to go wrong.
They over-planed, interrupted or over-explained to maintain control. In interactions, this sometimes created friction, as others could feel the need for control or rigidity.
Throughout the coaching process, I helped the client increase idea flexibility in and reduce the tendency for control.
They became more aware of this mental saboteur, its thoughts and behaviours and from there we worked on changing rigidity into more flexible thinking and the client became more open to collaboration.
As a result, the client is now able to accept other ways of doing things, they are more relaxed and able to build on the ideas of other people.
They ask people close to her what they want and are more open to their answers.
They don’t have the urge to convince the other person to do exactly what they want.
They are more detached when it comes to their own ideas.
📱If you’re struggling with a need for control and want to become more flexible, working with me can get you the solution to your problem.
Send me a message and let’s work together to shift your mindset and get you the best out of your career.
